When to tell your children you are getting a divorce

On Behalf of | Jan 9, 2023 | Family Law |

Whether your children are getting closer to adulthood or are still very small, going through a divorce can be challenging. Everyone in the family will have a range of feelings as you all learn what divorce will mean for everyone.

Telling your children about a divorce can seem incredibly daunting, regardless of age.

Here’s what you should keep in mind when telling your children you are getting a divorce.

They shouldn’t have to guess

While it may be uncomfortable to talk to your children about an upcoming divorce, it is crucial that you tell them directly. Ideally, you and your spouse should decide how and when to talk to your children together.

Ultimately, you do not want your children to start seeing the clues and start to ask questions. Children who feel the need to guess may start feeling insecure about the future and what divorce could mean for them.

Having an age-appropriate discussion

When you think about the divorce conversation, you should remember that you probably will not be able to complete it in one sitting. Your children will have questions as they think about what divorce means and how it will apply to their everyday lives.

Keep in mind that your ex will still be your child’s other parent. While you may have a significant conflict between you, that information can make your child’s relationship with them more difficult. As you discuss what divorce will mean for your children and their future, try to ensure they can continue a positive relationship with both parents, even if you are no longer married.